• Healing from Infidelity:

    A Professional Program

    A 6.5 hour online training program: Cost $397 including 6.5 CE's!

  • About Michele

    The Presenter

    Michele​ ​Weiner-Davis,​ ​LCSW​ ​is​ ​an​ ​internationally​ ​renowned​ ​relationship expert​ ​recognized​ ​for​ ​her​ ​groundbreaking​ ​work​ ​with​ ​couples​ ​on​ ​the​ ​brink​ ​of divorce.​ ​She​ ​is​ ​a​ ​best-selling​ ​author,​ ​and​ ​sought-after​ ​speaker​ ​who​ ​has authored​ ​eight​ ​books​ ​including​ ​the​ ​best-selling,​ ​DIVORCE​ ​BUSTING​ ​and THE​ ​SEX-STARVED​ ​MARRIAGE.​ ​​ ​Her​ ​most​ ​recent​ ​book​ ​is​ ​entitled, HEALING​ ​FROM​ ​INFIDELITY.

    She​ ​has​ ​also​ ​authored​ ​or​ ​co-authored​ ​several​ ​professional​ ​articles​ ​in​ ​journals such​ ​as​ ​​The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, Family Process ​and has​ ​authored​ ​several​ ​book​ ​chapters.​ ​​ ​Additionally,​ ​she​ ​is​ ​a​ ​contributor​ ​for The​ ​Huffington​ ​Post​ ​and​ ​Psychology​ ​Today.


    In​ ​addition​ ​to​ ​her​ ​TEDx​ ​talk-​ ​viewed​ ​over​ ​3​ ​million​ ​times-​ ​Michele​ ​has​ ​been offering​ ​popular​ ​and​ ​inspiring​ ​relationship-building​ ​keynotes​ ​and​ ​seminars, nationally​ ​and​ ​internationally​ ​to​ ​lay​ ​and​ ​professional​ ​audiences​ ​since​ ​1982.


    Michele​ ​is​ ​the​ ​Founder​ ​of​ ​The​ ​Divorce​ ​Busting®​ ​Center​ ​in​ ​Boulder, Colorado.​ ​​ ​Her​ ​popular​ ​website,​ ​​www.divorcebusting.com​​ ​offers​ ​valuable information​ ​for​ ​people​ ​in​ ​troubled​ ​marriages.

    Michele's​ ​work​ ​has​ ​been​ ​widely​ ​featured​ ​in​ ​major​ ​newspapers​ ​such​ ​as​ ​the USA​ ​TODAY,​ ​New​ ​York​ ​Times,​ ​Los​ ​Angeles​ ​Times,​ ​Washington​ ​Post, Chicago​ ​Tribune,​ ​Wall​ ​Street​ ​Journal,​ ​and​ ​magazines​ ​such​ ​as​ ​Time, Newsweek,​ ​Redbook,​ ​Ladies​ ​Home​ ​Journal,​ ​and​ ​so​ ​on.​ ​She​ ​has​ ​made countless​ ​media​ ​appearances​ ​on​ ​shows​ ​such​ ​as​ ​48​ ​Hours,​ ​CBS​ ​This Morning,​ ​20/20,​ ​Good​ ​Morning​ ​America,​ ​CBS​ ​Evening​ ​News,​ ​The​ ​Today Show,​ ​and​ ​Oprah.


    Michele​ ​is​ ​the​ ​recipient​ ​several​ ​prestigious​ ​professional​ ​awards​ ​including​ ​​an award​ ​for​ ​Outstanding​ ​Contribution​ ​to​ ​Marriage​ ​and​ ​Family​ ​Therapy​ ​in 2001​ ​from​ ​The ​American​ ​Association​ ​for​ ​Marriage​ ​and​ ​Family​ ​Therapy​, which​ ​represents​ ​the​ ​professional​ ​interests​ ​of​ ​more​ ​than​ ​24,000​ ​marriage​ ​and family​ ​therapists​ ​throughout​ ​the​ ​United​ ​States,​ ​Canada​ ​and​ ​abroad Michele​ ​also​ ​received​ ​an​ ​Impact​ ​Award​ ​during​ ​the​ ​7th​ ​Annual​ ​Smart Marriages​ ​Conference​ ​(The​ ​Coalition​ ​for​ ​Marriage,​ ​Family,​ ​and​ ​Couples Education)​ ​in​ ​2003.

  • Program Outline

    This is a 6.5 hour, comprehensive, step-by- step training program to help professionals guide couples through the process of healing from betrayal- dealing with the immediate crisis, rebuilding trust, putting the past in the past, redefining their “new marriage” and reconnecting physically and emotionally.

    About Michele's Model


    This model is:



    Based on “what works”

    Focused on diffusing the crisis period

    Applicable to non-traditional relationships


    General Thoughts on Healing


    Affairs are Destructive for Marriages

    No sugar-coating here. Although working through betrayal can- and does- yield positive transformations, the pain can be overwhelming and long-lasting


    Universal Rules Don’t Work

    Since no two individuals or couples are alike, you have to modify your approach to fit with each couple


    Healing Takes a Long Time

    Helping couples stay patient over the long haul is key


    Two Separate Journeys

    How recovery differs for the betrayed and unfaithful spouse


    Spending Time Together Helps

    How physical proximity heals


    Balance Between Discussions About the Affair and Doing Other Things is Necessary

    How to handle disagreements about processing the affair and putting the past in the past


    Don’t Throw in The Clinical Towel

    How not to become hopeless yourself!



    Tasks For The Betrayed Spouse


    Express Feelings Constructively: Anger, Hurt, Rage

    How to encourage betrayed spouses to speak their truths and be heard


    Thoughts About Family, Friends, and Children - Needing Support

    It’s important to know the difference between people you can share information with and those you can’t.


    Ask for Details if it Helps

    What information does the betrayed spouse need to heal? When is enough, enough?


    Ask for Reassurances Without Accusing

    Coach betrayed spouses to approach their partners in constructive ways even when they are anxious or angry


    Identify What Might Help and Ask for It

    Help clients recognize what does assuage the pain and encourage them to solicit help


    Regain Positive Self-Concept and Access Sources of Resilience

    Although the unfaithful spouse is an integral part of the healing process, some of the healing work must come from within


    Identify Areas of Marriage Needing Improvement

    Even if a marriage was on solid ground before an affair, betrayal changes all that. Move beyond the crisis period and rebuild and reconnect


    Solution Focused Goal Setting: Three Solution-Oriented Criteria

    State Goals Positively

    Describe Actions

    Break Down Goals Into Do-able Chunks


    Gain Empathy for Partner

    Real healing can’t occur until there is a move toward compassion and empathy for the unfaithful spouse


    Learn Ways to Get Back on Track

    Setbacks are normal. Getting stuck isn’t


    Pay Attention to How Arguments End - “Truce Triggers”

    Help couples recognize their unique ways of melting the ice after setbacks


    Thought Stopping and Mindfulness

    Help betrayed spouses to deal with triggering thoughts and rumination


    Regain Personal Resources

    A book recommendation for the betrayed spouse’s personal work



    Help clients take to heart the saying, “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.”



    What if spouses can’t forgive? Offer an alternative


    Become Sexual Again

    When couples have make-up sex. Laying the groundwork for becoming sexual again


    A Discussion About Sexuality - Be Specific

    Help couples talk openly about sex. What to do when becoming physical is difficult


    Mind reading

    Pre-empt a typical problem that occurs once progress has been made


    Tasks for the Unfaithful Spouse


    End the Affair!

    Help spouses make clean breaks from affair partners


    Show Empathy

    Help unfaithful spouse understand the impact of betrayal. Coach him or her to communicate this understanding


    Show Remorse

    Teach clients the importance of being contrite and making apologies that heal. What to do when shame interferes with remorse


    Share Details

    The importance of complete transparency


    Be Willing to Do Whatever it Takes to Reassure the Partner

    How to convince the unfaithful spouse about the importance of “x-treme” accountability to rebuild trust


    Expect Ups & Downs

    Offer a map of the territory ahead


    Be Patient

    Help this spouse have realistic expectations about the process of healing


    Examine Personal Reasons Affair Occurred

    Help the unfaithful spouse gain insight into the reasons he or she strayed.


    Identify Areas of the Marriage Needing Improvement

    Help this spouse become clear about what will make the marriage more loving, exciting and passionate


    Identify Triggers

    Having a plan to deal with temptation solidifies one’s resolve to remain committed


    Ask Scaling Questions

    Know how things are going from session to session


    Discuss Their Definition of Commitment

    Don’t take anything for granted. Find out what they want their marriage to look like moving forward


    Learn Ways to Get Back on Track

    As before, help the unfaithful spouse to recognize effective strategies for reconciling after rough times


    Forgive Oneself

    Often, the hardest person to forgive is oneself. Help the unfaithful spouse feel compassion for him or herself


    Working With One Spouse


    What to do when someone isn’t ready to end the affair or tell their spouse about it

    Watch a video where I work with a woman who doesn’t want to give up her affair or tell her husband about it. Do you hold a secret or not?


    Grieving the Affair

    Even if ending the affair is intentional, often, there is a sense of loss. Help the unfaithful spouse put that in perspective.


    When One Spouse is on the Fence

    How the model changes when one spouse isn’t certain about the viability of the marriage


    Cementing the Changes, A Celebratory


    Ideas about rituals to mark the transformation


    Final Thoughts

    Be a pushy hope-monger!

    6.5 CE's Available For*:

    THIS PROGRAM IS FOR Intermediate and Advanced Level mental health professionals including:

    • Psychologists 
    • Licensed Professional Counselors
    • Marriage & Family Therapists
    • Licensed Mental Health Counselors
    • Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselors
    • Certified Professional Counselors
    • Licensed Professional Counselors
    • Associate Professional Counselors
    • Licensed Professional Clinical Counselors
    • Nurses 


    *You must  complete an evaluation and pass a T/F quiz after you watch the course to get CE credit. When you purchase the program, you will be sent the evaluation along with instructions about how to obtain your CE's.


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    Return Policy

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    Continuing Education Program Approval

    Date: 11/28/17

    The following program has been approved for continuing education credit:

    Title: Healing From Infidelity: A Professional Program

    Sponsoring person or organization: Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp

    Date(s): Online

    Location: Online

    Presented by: Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW

    Professions approved:

    _X_ Psychologists _X_ Marriage & Family Therapists _X_ Licensed Professional Counselors _X_ Nurses

    Number of CE hours credit per program: 6.5

    Approved for:

    Michele Weiner-Davis

    885 Arapahoe Ave

    Boulder, CO 80302



    Commonwealth Educational Seminars

    1020 Osterville West Barnstable Rd

    Marstons Mills, MA 02648

    (800) 376-3345 – Fax: (508) 420-3360

    CommonwealthSeminars.com commonwealthseminars@gmail.com



    Continuing Education credit for this program is awarded by Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) for the following professions:

    Licensed Professional Counselors/Licensed Mental Health Counselors: Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) is entitled to grant continuing education credit for LPCs/LMHCs in the following states: AZ, AR, CA, CO, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, HI, ID, IL, IN, IA, KS, KY, ME, MA, MO, NE, NH, NJ, NM, NC, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WI, WY. CES maintains responsibility for this program. LPCs/LMHCs completing the program will receive 6.5 continuing education hours of credit.

    Psychologists: Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offer continuing education credit programs. Commonwealth Educational Seminars maintains responsibility for this program and its content. Psychologists receive 6.5 hours of continuing education credit upon completing this program.

    Marriage and Family Therapists: Continuing education credit for Marriage & Family Therapists is awarded in the following states: AL, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, DC, DE, FL, GA, HI, ID, IN, IA, KS, ME, MD, MO, MT, NE, NH, NJ, NM, NC, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WI, WY. CES maintains responsibility for this program. Marriage and Family therapists completing this program will receive 6.5 CE hours of credit.

    Nurses: As an American Psychological Association approved provider CES programs are accepted by the American Nurses Credentialing Center (ANCC). Every state Board of Nursing accepts ANCC approved programs except California and Iowa, however CES is also an approved Continuing Education provider by the California Board of Registered Nursing, (Provider Number CEP15567) which is also accepted by the Iowa Board of Nursing. Nurses completing this program receive 6.5 CE hours of credit.

  • Learning Objectives

    As a result of this training, participants will be able to:

    • Help regulate betrayed spouses who experience PTSD symptoms
    • Be more directive with couples who are lost after the discovery of an affair
    • Offer guidance when one spouse wants to discuss the affair and the other doesn’t
    • Help clients ascertain how much information about the affair is necessary
    • Know how to deal with secrets
    • Offer guidance about choosing confidantes in the couple’s social network
    • Instill hopefulness when couples feel despair
    • Deal effectively with setbacks
    • Help unfaithful spouses to end their affairs
    • Determine how to proceed when a spouse isn’t ready to end the affair
    • Reduce shame
    • Teach spouses to make effective apologies
    • Encourage unfaithful spouses to be accountable
    • Identify why the affair happened
    • Know why and when to have individual sessions
    • Help unfaithful spouses to deal with lingering feelings about the affair partner

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